Let’s talk about something tough. (Don’t flip the page. We can do tough things together, Sandites!)
Lately, I have noticed many of us, including myself, questioning the decisions of other people. We have been through some tough times over the last few years and I wonder if our circumstances haven’t made cynics out of some of us. So here it is.. I want to talk about the big ugly A word.
Not responsibility but accountability.
When times get tough it can be easy to look at how everyone else is handling their problems and personal growth instead of focusing on our own.This is a very human instinct (aka fight or flight) but part of being accountable is knowing when our input is hurtful and/or unhelpful we should not share it. Accountability is not the same as responsibility. Accountability is the idea that we all have to balance the ledger of the outcomes that have come about from our actions, words, and efforts. We are accountable for HOW we use the knowledge or lack of knowledge we have about a specific subject or situation.
As I have been thinking about accountability over the past few months one thing has become incredibly clear. When thoughtful consideration is put into personal accountability, decisions and conversations become more fruitful. When we reflect on the outcomes of our actions we are able to make changes that better the balance of ledgers.
I do want to be clear. I am not suggesting that you not stand up for something you believe will make a difference in the world. What I am saying is to remember to sweep in front of your own door first. Be humble about what you think you know, and what might just be opinion. Listen. Be kind.
I love our country, state and town! Thanks for talking about the hard stuff with me, Sandites!
All the VERY best,
- I think Theodore Roosevelt says it best:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
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